Ever heard the phrase, when we start using we stop growing emotionally. So basically look at the age you first began using and that’s EMOTIONALLY where you’re starting from when you get sober/clean. Scary eh? A bunch of teenagers trying to navigate the social world. Except that many teenagers have learned coping skills through the [...]
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beautifully imperfect or how to do step ten
Had probably one of the best comments/compliments/heckles of my life today. And that’s saying something. I’ve lived a lotta life in thirty some years. “You are so bright and happy, even at work. Are you always like this or is there something wrong with you?” To which, of course, I replied… A little of both. [...]
Emotional Intelligence, I Love Recovery
progression…
We in the recovery world talk an awful lot about the progression of the disease. The fall into sickness. The doom and gloom of “what it was like and what happened”. More often than not, in the thousands of meetings I’ve been to in my recovery lifetime, most ‘leads’ or speaker meetings focus an awful [...]
mix-ing.
“We are people who normally would not mix. But there exists among us a fellowship, a friendliness, and an understanding which is indescribably wonderful”. Chapter 2. Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. (if I tell you the page then you won’t read it to make sure I’m not pullin’ yer leg) I had a sponsor do [...]
if you want what we have …
Work the steps all you want. Speak at meetings. Sponsor a couple dozen new folk. Chair a meeting while setting up chairs and make coffee and do all that. You can do and Do and DO … and still be miserable. Internalizing and going through the motions are two very different things. The difference between [...]
the girl i used to be … or relapse of a midtimer
Waking. Agony. Not again. Not another groundhog day. I don’t wanna do this again. Suckin’ it up, bitch slap self for the sake of the babies. Play, learn, teach, grow … the only sunlight in the cave. Counting the seconds til the captain can come out to play. Three o’clock and whew and sigh and [...]
I over E …
Knee-jerk, react, physical gasp “oh no”, predictive thinking of the “what ifs” “OMG” and “other shoe dropping”. Not sure if any of you can relate to this type of thinking, but I was raised by a master of reaction … aka Moms. Everything was a catastrophe and this idea was flamed and fed by active [...]
light a candle …
Boundaries. Slippery little suckers they can be. When to go, stay, say “Shup”, or comere … who knows what’s what? Just like anything else in recovery, it’s an issue of internal fortitude. Giving a little may mean allowing an inch to become a marathon, while standing firm could spell certain catastrophe. I mean really. The [...]
Wake up and smell the …
Spiritually absent or spiritually aware? Prefacing this idea of spiritual or the conscience if you’d rather with no monikers of anything. No specific god speak or whatnot. And certainly not the judgment pounding good/bad, right/wrong pundits in their habits of shame. What fits or what doesn’t, what works or what will not, what it is [...]
Emotional Intelligence, Relationships and Recovery
RUN LIKE HELL … or … she stays she must like it
she must like it. she stayed didn’t she? god you’d think a girl would learn? Not so easy. Not so quickly did the dynamite go BOOM. Like a flash before your eyes in slow motion; it happened. Never knowing when the next unkind word would spout and knock you on your ass, before you even [...]
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