“But he has so much POTENTIAL!” “If only you knew him like I knew him, you would like him too.” “He’s not THAT bad. He had a bad childhood.” “You’re just trying to keep us apart.” Okay okay … and okay. Wow. Those are direct quotes from prior relationships early on in recovery, when my [...]

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I should have  __________.  Fill in the blank please.  We’ve all done it. Toxicity “shoulding” out of us like a rampant gastrointestinal disease gone mad.  I shoulda coulda woulda done this or that or the other.  Daydreams of a life gone by. The past flavored with fantasies of what we “coulda” done differently.  Etch a [...]

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I want what I want … WHEN I want it (yesterday) … HOW I want it (with zeal) … and as MANY times as I want it (three times three).  Expectations drip with fervor for my “wants” in life.  Wise folk have said that this foul “E” word leads directly to premeditated resentments.  Mindsick lying [...]

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