so. yeah. i don’t have a regular blog post tonight. but i do have some poetry. i know … *groan*. but this? this is important to me. and long. and to any of you who have suffered abuse by the hand of someone who says “i love you” you’ll get this. addiction often lends itself [...]

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Hard for me to say I’m sorry … and no I’m not talking Peter Cetera in the cheesy 80′s Chicago years. What is I’m sorry anyway? Is it an amends. I’m famous for saying “no sorries necessary”. But am I being a bit too hasty? Step nine tells me that to make amends means more [...]

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Coping skills. We all have them. Gleaned from life experience they protect us (we think) from the outside stimuli battering at our psyche. How we deal with what life can throw at us … matters.  Some of these “skills” are faulty. Twisted into unhealthy behaviors that create more problems than they solve. Sometimes tools break [...]

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Yeah. Overused topic. But with a twist. Any given night you can be sure that the topic of any 12 step meeting could very well be “gratitude”.  What are you grateful for? blah blah. Now I’m not mocking … for once. This is important. I’ve been to a few meetings on this topic. More like [...]

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Had probably one of the best comments/compliments/heckles of my life today.  And that’s saying something. I’ve lived a lotta life in thirty some years. “You are so bright and happy, even at work. Are you always like this or is there something wrong with you?” To which, of course, I replied… A little of both. [...]

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Joking around, the only way a truly sassy girl can do, one of my dear friends who happens to be a Judge (literally) commented on a member status or two.  I was engaged in a silly conversation about taking saucy pictures in a bathroom, when I was told about my ‘godlessness’. Now, I’m used to [...]

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It’s that time of year again. And yes I’ve had tons of emails on the subject of the ‘wintertime blues’ or ‘S.A.D (seasonal affective disorder)’ or just plain out tired of it being cold and dark and not being able to go outside and play or feel the warm sun on my face and I [...]

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I don’t let people in. I don’t like women/men. Women are bitches/Only men understand me. Men aren’t emotional enough/Only women understand me. All my friends are of the opposite sex. They just ‘get’ me better. I don’t trust… not even a little bit. I’ve written about this topic at least a hundred different ways but [...]

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I’m an avid poet and poetry reader. Really can’t be one without the other.  However sometimes I run across words that chill me to the core.  That delineate … “what it was like” for this drunk/dope fiend (thankfully in recovery today).  This young woman did this for me. And the gods (whomsoever those may be [...]

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I’m not a joiner.  I really don’t think like most people do… never have.  Rarely have I fit in with people “all the way”. Always just a smidge remains hidden to be “acceptable”.  I’m sure lots have felt that way.  Have heard it a time or twenty … I’m ‘unique’.  In the context of drinking/using, [...]

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