What becomes normal? Besides a cycle on a washing machine of course, normal is a relative term. Perhaps a better way to coin it is, what becomes familiar? For years, pain and misery, self doubt and shame, hatred and bitter remorse were our constant companions. How cool is it to wake up one day and [...]
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healing in the feeling …
I spout a lot about emotional intelligence. About NOT being reactive or over the top, about how important it is to not be ruled by emotion, and that being rational is best. And it is … BUT … there’s also something to be said for feeling, exactly what it is you’re supposed to feel given [...]
F. E. A. R.
F**k Everything And Run … Face Everything And Recover. Opposite ends of the spectrum of this word called FEAR. It seems that this is a concurrent theme in the helter skelter world of life … especially in addiction. Not just the obvious cowering shiver of a fright night movie show, fear takes many forms. Perhaps [...]
Spirit-Duality.
Every evening during our epic “night swimming” at Ninja House, the mini-ninjas and I have a topic we discuss. Usually presented by the six year old and in her always effervescent brilliance, she picks something that makes this Mommy Ninja go *G-U-L-P* (okay not really but she sure takes my breath away sometimes). Tonight’s literal [...]
Do or don’t do …
In the words of my friend Ronald P. “I either do or don’t do.” I polled my facebook page about taking risks, to a few (although profound) responses. Funny, when I publish sexy poetry I get lots more feedback. *one raised eyebrow* Question was about taking risks; going out of your comfort zone. And NO [...]
happy 4th?
This is NOT going to be your average Independence Day scratch. You know the whole “we’re free from the … blah blah blah” (which of course we are). But I never liked the obvious. And holidays like this one, always created mucho chaos in this chick’s world. If you can’t relate then stop reading and [...]
know it all…
Sitting at my desk writing, as I’m wont to do you know, I happened upon a blog post on www.intherooms.com (fantastic site for recovery folk and this is also one of their blogs that they asked me to “take over” … so … everyone wave to the boys in the loft *wave* k. moving on…). [...]
can i see … me?
I began pondering, as I’m known to do from time to time, about relationships. All of them. With others, self, or lack thereof. How vulnerable can we safely be? I was told by a new friend via late night candle lit, gravelly voiced phone call that “I’m brash” and it appears that I “don’t care [...]
fake it.
New behaviors. They tell us when we come into the “rooms” that we only have to change one thing … everything. I still groan at that one. Give me someone who’s gut level real and I could listen all day. But rote rhetoric and perpetual “sloganism”? Gah. I’ll pass. That’s my shit of course. For [...]
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