I’m dating. “In a relationship” according to my facebook profile page.  And I’m rather happy about that.  With whom? Well he’s amazing (gush gush swoon of course) AND in recovery. Sober/clean with all the sayings to go with. I love the idea of that.  Really I’ve only dated a few people outside of the rooms.  [...]

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“We are people who normally would not mix. But there exists among us a fellowship, a friendliness, and an understanding which is indescribably wonderful”.  Chapter 2. Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. (if I tell you the page then you won’t read it to make sure I’m not pullin’ yer leg) I had a sponsor do [...]

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I had a new friend, with mucho knowledge of the blogging scene, (way before everyone blogged about their grocery lists and how well little Skippy did at soccer practice) tell me (somewhat jokingly) that if the site were renamed I Hate Recovery and I wrote as Amy Winehouse instead of Amy aka SassySoberGirl … the [...]

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I spout a lot about emotional intelligence.  About NOT being reactive or over the top, about how important it is to not be ruled by emotion, and that being rational is best.  And it is … BUT … there’s also something to be said for feeling, exactly what it is you’re supposed to feel given [...]

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F**k Everything And Run … Face Everything And Recover.  Opposite ends of the spectrum of this word called FEAR.  It seems that this is a concurrent theme in the helter skelter world of life … especially in addiction.  Not just the obvious cowering shiver of a fright night movie show, fear takes many forms.  Perhaps [...]

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In the spirit of transparency, it’s time again for Sassy Poetry. Where words flow and poignancy reigns supreme.  This writing fills up the majority of my facebook page and I have tons of connections with poets both in and out of recovery.  Words are healing and cathartic and … and … and … this is [...]

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Time doesn’t matter. Ahem. I beg to differ. Sobriety countdowns say otherwise. the joy and satisfaction and even pure gratitude on someone’s face when they’re acknowledged for such an accomplishment is priceless.  More specifically when someone has one day clean … they’re told they’re the most important person in the room.  Followed with a “this [...]

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Ever have the tears well up in your throat until you could no longer swallow?  Eyes stinging, burning with memories of days gone by. The bitter and the sweet of a life limped and skipped over lava lakes and frigid waters.  I get weepy around anniverseries.  Always have.  But usually only in “safe” places, where [...]

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Upon mentioning to my lil’ ole blogspot here to some folks, I’m always asked “Do you really loooooove recovery?”  *snicker*  Of course this gives folks a reason to tease me; always epic fun. However it brings up a good point. Do I really love recovery and what the hell does that mean anyhow? Look at [...]

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Spiritually absent or spiritually aware?  Prefacing this idea of spiritual or the conscience if you’d rather with no monikers of anything. No specific god speak or whatnot.  And certainly not the judgment pounding good/bad, right/wrong pundits in their habits of shame. What fits or what doesn’t, what works or what will not, what it is [...]

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