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Jacqlyn Stein

About Jacqlyn Stein

Jackie Stein is a life coach, recovery life coach and BALM family recovery life coach, located in Pittsburgh PA, but accessible the world over, thanks to Skype. She provides general life coaching, recovery life coaching to those in recovery from alcoholism and addictions, both substance and process, and family recovery life coaching, using the BALM method, to family members of loved ones caught in the grip of substance or process addictions. Jackie is also a member of In The Rooms and a regular writer for I Love Recovery Café and the Family Recovery Institute. Her website is www.anewwayoflifecoaching.com.

Recovery Month Awareness for the Families of Loved Ones Affected by Substance Use By Jackie Stein, BALM® Family Recovery Life Coach

    Many of you know that I have spent the last couple of years studying to be both an addiction counselor and also a BALM® Family Recovery Life Coach. Counseling gives me the opportunity to work with others who are struggling to maintain recovery as well as learning to live life on life’s terms in early recovery. Be A Loving Mirror (BALM®) is a program that teaches families how to be their loved one’s best chance at recovery and how to avoid being their loved one’s best chance at relapse. I would like to tell you a bit more about BALM®, how I came to be a family member and how that has brought me full circle to studying to be a certified Family Recovery Life Coach. I first came to the BALM® program as the partner of a loved one struggling to get and maintain recovery.  I was… Continue reading

No Is A Complete Sentence – By Jackie Stein

  As we head back into the school year, our children will be exposed to many different ideas and suggestions. This will occur for all age groups: elementary schools, high schools, universities. Some will come from educators who have agendas and some will come from peers who are already under the influence of others. Some will come from children whose parents’ values do not align with ours. As they go out into the world, it is important for us to instill in our precious children a sense of self-esteem.  Without that feeling of power over self, our children are more likely to be manipulated by others. It is difficult to instill this powerful feeling once the children have hit adolescence. In many cases, peers have become much more important than parents. So, it is very important that we instill strength in our children at a very young age. I am… Continue reading

Children of Alcoholics and Addicts ARE Victims But They are NOT Helpless or Hopeless – By Jackie Stein

  The International Day of Innocent Children Victims of Aggression is a United Nations observation which occurs each June 4th. Created in August of 1982, the commemoration originally concentrated on child victims of the 1982 Lebanon War; however, its objective has been enlarged to recognize the trauma borne by children who are the victims of physical, mental and emotional abuse. It is time to recognize that children of those addicted to alcohol and other substances are innocent victims who suffer a great deal of physical, mental and emotional abuse but they can and do survive. Pardon the pun, but the National Association for Children of Alcoholics1 notes the following sobering points that speak to the gravity of this crisis. More than 28 million Americans are children of alcoholics; of those, nearly 11 million are younger than age 18. Children exposed prenatally to illicit drugs are two to three times more likely to be… Continue reading

Who Is In Your We – By Jackie Stein

Several years ago, a national credit card company had a marketing campaign that used the slogan “What’s in your wallet?” The presumption from that advertisement was that so long as you had their credit card in your wallet, you had everything you needed for financial support. The title of this article has the same focus.  Whether you are the addict or a family member, having a solid we is absolutely essential. What is a we you might ask? The term refers to the support system surrounding a person. It might be individuals, in or out of recovery. It might be health professionals. It might be community organizations.  Let’s talk a bit about why it is so important to have a we and who the parties in that we might be. This article is written from the perspective of the family of the addict but it is equally pertinent to the… Continue reading

Alcohol Awareness Month and the Stages of Change – By Jackie Stein, BALM Family Recovery Life Coach

April has been designated as Alcohol Awareness Month by the National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence, Inc. (http://www.ncadd.org/). The primary goals of this program are to make us aware of the dangers of alcohol use disorder (AUD), to help those who already suffer from AUD to recognize the problems being caused by excessive alcohol consumption, and the need to make life changes to arrest the process. My primary focus is on the awareness by those who are already having problems with alcohol and their families. This process of awareness in the arena of AUD is often called the Stages of Change; a process first discussed by Prochaska & DiClemente in 1983. The stages include: pre-contemplation, contemplation, preparation, action, and maintenance. Some include relapse as a stage and some consider that to just be an interruption in the stages. The length and severity of the relapse determines if a person needs to start… Continue reading