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Phoenix Emery

Phoenix has been in recovery for his addiction for almost seven years. Working the 12 Steps along with individual counseling, group counseling, somatic experiencing, trauma intensive workshops, DBT, EMDR, and doing his own deeper work to understand himself and his behaviors, he learned the hard way that there’s a difference between sobriety and recovery. Sobriety means stopping the addictive behaviors. Recovery means working your program daily, staying present in the Now, and managing emotions without being reactive to them. Phoenix felt as if his world fell apart the summer of 2016 when he moved out of his home.

January 2017, Phoenix embarked on a new journey; a journey of blogging and story writing the struggles he was going through. Instead of staying stuck in his own story as a victim of a broken marriage that he caused, he embarked with a fellow friend (and head whacker), Rafiki, to help him open his eyes to understand himself, his former spouse, his children, and the world around him. This has been his journey to learn how to care for his inner child, a journey learning to love himself.

Phoenix died in 2016 and, through his writing in 2017, he was reborn. With a gift of being vulnerable, the humility of not being perfect, and the desire to continue to grow, Phoenix hopes he can help others on their own personal journey of self-love.

For more information about Phoenix and his adventures in healing, visit his blog at www.togetherwecanheal.com.

I Love Me; What I Learned From My 5 year old Daughter – By Phoenix Emery

It’s interesting to stand aside and just observe my emotions. I lost my mother in 2006. For many years I’d hear a song, see a play, or think of something I knew my mother would like and I couldn’t control the emotions that took over. I’d easily tear up and feel my body transported into the pain I felt on the day I lost her. That had been the same with my divorce. A song, a thought, missing my ex, just having the desire to talk with her and see how her day was, I’d go from happy go lucky to an instant mush of sadness. Through recovery and the work I’ve done this past year, it’s been easier to manage my emotions. I feel them coming, I acknowledge them, I accept them, and I try not let them overwhelm me. If they do become overwhelming, I let them flow,… Continue reading