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About Rosemary O Connor

Rosemary O’Connor is a leading expert and spokesperson on women, children, and addiction recovery. She is the founder of ROC Recovery Services, which offers comprehensive care for women suffering from addictions. ROC services include: sober living, recovery coaching, life coaching, and sober companions. She is in demand as a professional speaker and workshop leader. Hazelden published Rosemary’s new book, A Sober Mom’s Guide to Recovery, in 2015.

Dating: A Cautionary Tale – From A Sober Mom’s Guide To Recovery – by Rosemary O’Connor

© 2015 by Rosemary O’Connor Hazelden Publishing Published with permission of Rosemary O’Connor. “All discarded lovers should be given a second chance, but with somebody else.”— MAE WEST For the alcoholic single mother, the dos and don’ts of dating are convoluted and complex. Dating for anyone today is like a minefield, but for recovering women, especially recovering moms who already have a history of disastrous relationships, the dangers are even greater. My friend Diane told me, “I’ve dated every dysfunctional man in Arizona, so I had to move to California.” You may feel like your Prize Picker is totally broken after so many failed attempts, or maybe you had no relation- ships and just slept around, looking for love in all the wrong places. You may be the woman who never dated and had given up on ever finding love. It was suggested I refrain from dating for the first… Continue reading