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About Tsgoyna Tanzman

For more than 20 years, Tsgoyna has been coaching a broad range of people, including those who’ve suffered traumatic brain injuries and catastrophic life events as well as healthy, smart, successful people who’ve been derailed or feel stuck. She likes to say, “You don’t have to have a brain injury to damage your brain, we do that with our limiting thoughts and negative beliefs.” Tsgoyna is an expert at helping women learn to coach themselves, so they can redefine and recreate their lives from an integrated, empowered and joyful state. She teaches women the tools and strategies to separate circumstances from thoughts & feelings, while gaining insight and choice into the actions they take. She supports women in releasing emotional baggage and limiting beliefs, setting goals and taking action to achieve them. Tsgoyna knows about addiction, codependence, alcoholism and the daily process of working a program as her husband is celebrating 25 years of sobriety since the intervention she arranged. Tsgoyna is a Speech/Language Pathologist, MA/CCC, Certified Life Coach, Mental Emotional Release® Therapist, Master Practitioner of Neurolinguistic Programming and a Certified Hypnotherapist. Additionally, she achieved a Level II certification in E.F.T (Emotional Freedom Technique). She has also been guest writer with 9 published pieces at the online magazine MORE.COM as well as having 15 stories published in Chicken Soup for the Soul ( in 15 different anthologies).

The Good & Bad Of It All – By Tsgoyna Tanzman

“That’s good. That’s Bad.” I recalled this tag line from one of my favorite children’s’ books by that title, as I watched nature unfold while on safari in Africa. A lion was in hot pursuit of an antelope. “Oh, that’s Bad.” The antelope, away from the protection of its herd, leaped into the water to halt the lion’s pursuit, just narrowly escaping certain death. Oh, that’s good. But almost immediately a crocodile surfaced with wide-open jaws and the antelope succumbed. Oh, that’s bad. Life in the bush is a constant tale of, “Oh that’s good. That’s bad.” But so it is for our lives as well. Out in the bush, I was away from the horrific news events that occurred in Seville, Spain and in my own country in Charlottesville, and now in Houston. How is it possible to remotely think of, “That’s Good,” with tragedy, loss, and devastation? Those events… Continue reading

Why You Want To “STOP IT!” – By Tsgoyna Tanzman

    My client called me the day after it happened… “I went to the emergency room, she said.  “I thought I was having a heart attack. I guess I’m really anxious about this speech.” Her tone was heavy with shame and self-recrimination. “Well, it’s better to die of embarrassment than a heart attack,” I said, “but let’s talk about what got you there.” Anxiousness is a really poor use of imagination. I am not a doctor and I don’t play one in my coaching practice, but what I see from lots of clients and my own personal observation is Anxiety is:  fear, discomfort and catastrophizing on steroids Yes, some people genuinely need medicine to alter or interrupt their maladaptive brain patterns, but the behavioral component of Stopping what you’re doing that got you into that state is an often overlooked component.  You need to create different body postures and  think… Continue reading

Myers-Briggs or Candy Land? – By Tsgoyna Tanzman

“I want winning!” the three-year old seethed as he plucked the dreaded peppermint candy card from the pile.  He was so close to the castle, the finish line, the grand ending where he could declare himself the winner, but instead he boomeranged back to the beginning only to watch others race to the finish. Candy Land is a game of momentary thrills and devastating setbacks. It’s a game of chance– pick a card — see what you get Like life itself, it reveals one’s general resilience and stress tolerance when external circumstances happen. In plain talk:  You get to see who you are when Sh%$ happens.  The game is about trust and tolerance about enjoying the journey and about dealing with the unexpected turn of bad news just when you thought you were at the top of your game. Everyone covets the ice-cream cone card. It’s the winning lotto ticket… Continue reading

Do You Have An Expiration Date On Your Expansion? – By Tsgoyna Tanzman

  My dentist peered into my open mouth, “We’ll have to take the bonding off your tooth if we want to do Invisalign.” (Clear braces). As a middle child, I fell into the category of “good enough.” My older sister needed braces, a dermatologist and a counselor. My younger brother needed glasses and an allergist.  In my family, resource allocation was on an as needed basis and even though my teeth weren’t great, they were good enough. As an adult, I became increasingly aware of my misalignment and how it looked when I spoke.  I was beginning to have more public exposure and didn’t like how, in photographs, two teeth always looked as if they were missing because they were recessed. I had minor orthodontia in my 40’s, but overtime I stopped wearing my retainer and my teeth returned to their recessed positions. The worst tooth was in the center… Continue reading

What’s Better Than Understanding – By Tsgoyna Tanzman

We all want to be understood.  This is a fundamental principle of our being. To feel that someone truly “gets us, knows us, feels what we feel, and can relate to us.” This resonance and simpatico is the strength of relationships. But when it comes to “understanding” problems, discovering our motivations and why the problem is what it is, understanding may just be the very thing blocking progress. Examine the word for a moment Under-Stand To stand under something is to not see it. To not see it, is to not know it. To not know a way out or around it. To stand under something is to have a weight above you—something impenetrable and too heavy to shake off. Einstein said, “We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.” So we need a way out. Perhaps OVER standing our problems is a beginning. To overstand means… Continue reading