How To Light Your Own Candles – Make Believe, Make Belief: By Tsgoyna Tanzman

candlelight-15246_1280“I’m celebrating my birthday”, Amaya, my six year old grand niece informed every waiter at every restaurant she visited during the month of November. At home, she’d announced her intention to celebrate “all month long”. In her short life and experience of celebrating only five birthdays, she was on to the magic of self-acknowledgement. Taking care of herself!

She didn’t expect anyone or anything to celebrate her without her orchestration and participation. She carried her own candles in her own little purse; “just in case the restaurant doesn’t have them” –  making certain she was responsible for all the details of her happiness.

How responsible are you for the details of your own happiness?

We often expect other people and things outside ourselves to make us happy, but the truth is, it is always our responsibility.

Derek Rydall, leading edge coach and founder of Emergence, examines the word responsibility and makes it two words:  “Response Ability” :  our ability to respond to our own needs. Self-care is taking care of one’s self. Everything you think you want from someone or something else is a clue as to what you need to give yourself.

If you’re “too busy” to put yourself on your TO DO LIST, can you really expect others to put you on theirs? Whatever you think you’re missing – is what you’re not giving yourself.

Carry your own candles. Light your own flame. You are worth it.

MAKE BELIEF AFFIRMATION

I am responsible for my own happiness. I activate, generate and radiate joy.

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About Tsgoyna Tanzman

For more than 20 years, Tsgoyna has been coaching a broad range of people, including those who’ve suffered traumatic brain injuries and catastrophic life events as well as healthy, smart, successful people who’ve been derailed or feel stuck. She likes to say, “You don’t have to have a brain injury to damage your brain, we do that with our limiting thoughts and negative beliefs.” Tsgoyna is an expert at helping women learn to coach themselves, so they can redefine and recreate their lives from an integrated, empowered and joyful state. She teaches women the tools and strategies to separate circumstances from thoughts & feelings, while gaining insight and choice into the actions they take. She supports women in releasing emotional baggage and limiting beliefs, setting goals and taking action to achieve them. Tsgoyna knows about addiction, codependence, alcoholism and the daily process of working a program as her husband is celebrating 25 years of sobriety since the intervention she arranged. Tsgoyna is a Speech/Language Pathologist, MA/CCC, Certified Life Coach, Mental Emotional Release® Therapist, Master Practitioner of Neurolinguistic Programming and a Certified Hypnotherapist. Additionally, she achieved a Level II certification in E.F.T (Emotional Freedom Technique). She has also been guest writer with 9 published pieces at the online magazine MORE.COM as well as having 15 stories published in Chicken Soup for the Soul ( in 15 different anthologies).
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