I See You – By Alethea Mshar




I see you running your child to AA and NA meetings when your friends are running their kids to jobs or college placement testing.

I see you slipping out of the conversation when your friends are all chiming in about milestones, and college acceptance letters.

I see you constantly juggling out-patient meetings and court dates.

I see you sitting at your computer for hours desperately researching addiction and treatment options or county jail rosters.

I see you cringe when people whine about what feels like petty things.

I see you debating whether you should pull out of your retirement *again* to pay for another round of treatment.

I see you spread thin but still going the extra mile for your other family members because the guilt eats at you that they get so little of your attention.

I see you yet again not taking a much needed vacation for fear of what might happen while you’re gone.

I see you digging for depths of strength you never dreamed you had.

I see you showing appreciation to the judges, therapists and medical professionals who serve your child with compassion and understanding.

I see you rising early in the morning to do it all again after another chaotic night.

I see you when you’re hanging on to the end of your rope for dear life.

I know you feel invisible, like nobody notices any of it. But I want you to know I notice you. I see you relentlessly pushing onward. I see you keep choosing to do everything in your power to give your child the best possible care.

What you’re doing matters. It’s worth it.

On those days when you wonder if you can do it another minute, I want you to know I see you. I want you to know you’re beautiful. I want you to know it’s worth it. I want you to know you aren’t alone. I want you to know love is what matters most, and you have that nailed.

And on those days when you have breakthroughs, those times when the hard work pays off and success is yours to cherish, I see you then too, and I am proud of you.

Whichever day today is, you’re worthy, you’re good and I see you. ❤️

Adapted from

Alethea Mshar’s poem.




About Magnolia New Beginnings

Magnolia New Beginnings, Inc. is dedicated to advocating for those affected with the disease of addiction, creating educational opportunities to inform and raise awareness about substance abuse, and supporting addicts and their families in the process of seeking recovery, maintaining sobriety, and reaching their highest potential through a new beginning. Magnolia New Beginnings has no paid staff, no overhead aside from minor administrative costs such as postage, website etc.., which allows all donations to go to the intended purpose; raising awareness and helping to create new beginnings for those affected by the disease of addiction. We strive to create a united voice among advocacy groups in order to create change. Check out Magnolia on their facebook page https://www.facebook.com/groups/beforethepetalsfall/ and website http://www.magnolianewbeginnings.org/
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  1. This is all so real, If I haven’t done it I have seen it. so I thought, I love this , very powerful, letting parents know they are not in this alone, we do see each other, looking for the next best thing for our child, it’s like an Eagle souring down to grab a loved one and hold him, knowing he is human. We all are. Thank you .

  2. This is absolutely beautiful!!

  3. Wow, I’m sure this is so many of us moms (and dads) running, running, running in chaos trying to keep our sanity and our children healthy (the substance use disordered and the non-substance use disordered). It does seem like a thankless job sometimes but we are hoping to be rewarded with a child that has a full life in recovery. I don’t have the big dreams of college, a high paying job, big house and adult toys for my son anymore. Those things aren’t what’s important. I just want him to be alive and in recovery and to be happy. And I want our family to survive this. Especially his sister (the forgotten siblings).

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