Welcome to Trauma and the Tweleve Steps: A New Meeting (And Movement) on InTheRooms.com

Hello everyone! My name is Jamie Marich, and I am a woman in long-term recovery from alcohol, drugs, co-dependency, compulsive overeating, and work. I am also a survivor of trauma. When I set out on a path of recovery fourteen years ago, I had the privilege of being twelfth stepped by Janet, a wonderful woman with over twenty five years of recovery who really got trauma. She understood that if she tried to take me through the steps in a rigid, fundamentalist manner, I would not stay in the rooms. Not only did she help me realize that so many of my addictive responses were intertwined with traumatic reactions, she guided me through my first two years of recovery in a compassionate way. I am now a dually licensed mental health and addiction counselor specializing in trauma, and I have the awesome privilege of traveling the country to train others in… Continue reading

Drinking – A Love Story – Addiction By Jackie S.

Today’s chapter is a public service announcement of sorts. Caroline starts by sharing the twenty six question quiz she remembers reading to see if she had a problem with alcohol. The pamphlet said if she answered “yes” to even one question, she might have a problem with alcohol. She answered yes to nineteen. Oy vey!  She discusses the debate over whether alcoholism is a disease or a moral deficiency. This book was written in 1996 and although we have a great deal more research on the subject, the issue is still fodder for argument. Discussion of AA, talk therapy, the incredible recidivism rate and the “moderation movement” now known as “harm reduction”. Neurotransmitters and dopamine. Seems to me that while a great deal of this discussion carries on, it makes me think of degrees of alcoholism. In the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, the authors talk about different “types” of… Continue reading

Understanding Sex Addiction Triggers – By Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT-S

Triggers for sexual addiction are the thoughts and feelings that set the cycle of sex addiction in motion. There are two main types of sex addiction triggers – internal and external – and both can be incredibly powerful. Internal triggers are uncomfortable emotions, feelings, and experiences such as boredom, shame, depression, anger, anxiety, guilt, fear, disappointment, loneliness, etc. External triggers are people, places, things, and/or events that induce thoughts of sexual acting out – seeing an old affair partner, driving past a strip club, watching a sex scene in a movie, having a couple of cocktails in a bar, seeing an attractive person at the mall, etc. It is not uncommon for internal and external triggers to be connected. For instance, a sex addict might drive past a bar or club where he or she used to meet extramarital sex partners. Simply being in the vicinity will bring up memories… Continue reading

Drinking: A Love Story – Drinking Alone – By Jackie S.

In this chapter, Caroline Knapp examines the phenomenon which occurs when we begin drinking alone along with the attendant activities. She talks about drinking alone before getting together with others because she didn’t want them to know how much she really drank. She expresses her thoughts about coming home from work and drinking all night in front of the television. And let’s not forget going to different liquor stores on different days so that no one would know how much she was consuming (because, of course, the cashiers at the liquor store definitely kept track and what they thought was of paramount importance, right?)  And then there was the manipulation of how to dispose of all the empties, because it was important to make a good impression on the garbage collectors as well. Taking large black garbage bags of bottles to the street in the dead of night so that… Continue reading

I Love Recovery Cafe & BuzzKill Pod Talk Gender Issues In Recovery

Check out Buzzkill Pod here Much is written about how addiction affects men and women differently, but little is discussed about how recovery affects each. Nicola from www.iloverecovery.com and Paul from www.buzzkillpod.com converse about recovery and how it can differ in the two sexes. Physical, emotional, mental, societal, sexual and psychological aspects can affect how men and women approach recovery.   <code> </code>       Continue reading