Healing an Addiction-Damaged Relationship: The Personal Benefits of Integrity Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT-S  

In a previous post to this site on healing an addiction-damaged relationship, I wrote about rigorous honesty (why we need it and what it looks like) and the difference between active and passive truth-telling. In that post, the focus was on repairing relationship trust with a betrayed spouse or partner. This post is on the personal benefits of truth-telling. Active, rigorous honesty is not all about our significant other. We too will benefit. First and foremost, getting everything out in the open reduces the fantasy-driven allure of our addiction. After all, forbidden fruit is often exciting primarily because it is forbidden and secretive. If we keep our addiction hidden, we can romanticize it in whatever way we choose—worshipping it as our perfect little prize while ignoring its flaws and the related consequences. Until we burst the bubble and dissolve the fantasy by talking about our ‘stinking thinking’ with our therapist,… Continue reading

My Calling Song – Marie Guma-Jelinek

  Dear wild bird Flying in your cage swiftly from side to side. Going about your pleasant routine, whistling as if you weren’t tied. Dear sweet bird You need to see that the life that you live is contained. That there is so much more and you allow yourself to be restrained. Dear loving bird Your song penetrates my soul and sings to my heart as it opens like never before. I want to take you with me so that I feel this feeling forever and in every pore. Dear happy bird Please let me show you the key so that you may see the door. Show you there are so many other ways and places to soar. Can’t you hear me my little bird? Open your eyes and look above at the endless sky Taste the freedom I offer because I can now not live without you I can… Continue reading

Why do People Become Addicted? – By Lee Weber

If you are reading this, you probably have a friend or family member who is addicted to something, gambling, drugs, alcohol, even sex or the internet. Maybe you are probably wondering how did they ever wind up in such a bad place in their lives. Therefore, if you are asking the question why do people become addicted? You are really wondering what causes addiction. If you want to better understand addiction so that you can react better to the person you are worried about, we hope to help explain addiction basics for you here. At the end we will answer all your questions about this topic. We will be discussing the following: What Is Addiction? Statistics, Is Addiction Common? How Do People Become Addicted? Addiction´s Effects In The Brain Why Do People Become Addicted? Signs Of A Problem: Am I Addicted? Why Cannot Addicts Say NO? Any Help For And… Continue reading

Homemade Anti-Inflammatory Juices To Boost Your Recovery – By Jackie

Over 8.1 million adults in the U.S. are coping with a substance use disorder. Drug addiction is known to change the way our brain functions and significantly impacts how our body perceives daily pleasures. One of the most common effects of excessive use of drugs like alcohol is the increased levels of inflammatory lipids in the brain. For those recovering from addiction or trying to stay sober, dealing with effects like brain inflammation can be challenging, especially when you consider the cost associated with full recovery and the time it takes to get back to full sobriety. The good news is, there are homemade anti-inflammatory juices that can help you boost your addiction recovery process. Eating the right foods and drinking the right fluids can help you reverse brain damage from drug and alcohol abuse. Here are some anti-inflammatory juices you can try out at home. Turmeric root juice Turmeric is high… Continue reading

Seeds of Your Spirit – By Kyczy Hawk

  I was never totally scum. Not before I started drinking and during my pre-recovery years. I was also not struck wonderful when I found recovery. However, when I share my story you might think that I was perfectly bad in my “before days” and steadily better on the road of “progress” with occasional bouts of perfection now. That is not the case. Not completely bad then, not thoroughly good now. The seeds of my true self were always there before I used, while I use and now, after I have stopped using. The little sprouts of my spiritual being popped up from  time to time in my youth and even in my using “career”. I was not totally one way or another, then or now. Reading the Big Book might give one the impression that we alcoholics are seething pots of self centeredness, self will; filled with self pity. … Continue reading