A Letter For Your Isolated and Hard to Reach Teen – By Andrea Wachter, LMFT and Steve Legallet, LMFT

        As family therapists, we are seeing more and more young people who are suffering from various degrees of depression, anxiety, addictions and social isolation as they try to mask all of the emotions and negative consequences associated with theses self-defeating behaviors. We also see many concerned and baffled parents who struggle with trying to find ways to help their wounded and isolated kids. If you have a son or daughter who is suffering, addicted, depressed, anxious, isolated, angry and/or shut down, here are some words that you might consider writing or saying to open the door to a new avenue of communication: Dear Son or Daughter, We see that you are struggling and suffering. We imagine that there are many thoughts and feelings underneath your anger including confusion, fear, hopelessness, and pain. We understand that you are going through a very difficult time in your life, and that… Continue reading

    Finding Acceptance – A Spiritual Good Time Charlie – By Mark Masserant

      “I amz what I amz and that’s allz that I amz.” (Every freakin’ episode?) – Popeye T. Sailorman    Rarely did I go down without a fight. As a result, acceptance in any area of my life was always a struggle proportionate to the current unpleasant episode I was confronted with. My drinking was the common thread that ran through all of my troubles, yet it also helped me forget them. Consequently, defeat at the hands of alcohol was a victory neither pain-free, nor easily gained. Despite the constant upheaval caused by my boozing and my urgent desire to stop, there were unforeseen obstacles that blocked me from accepting my drinking problem. On the surface, I was certain I had thrown in the towel—the monotonous drone of my name, followed by ‘…and I’m an alcoholic’, was sounded at meetings every night for almost a year. I believed it. But hidden… Continue reading

    Recovery, Relapse, Triggers and Yoga; A Journey Into Healing Part Two – Kyczy Hawk

          Relapse and Triggers What is Relapse? Lapse describes a short “fall off the wagon,” and relapse describes a longer and perhaps more permanent “fall off the wagon.”. Hendershot et al. describe it this way: “a setback during the behavior changing process” (2011 www.biomedcentral.com/content/pdf/1747-597X-6-17/pdf) . If you re-engage with sugar or sex, codependent behavior or cocaine, tobacco or tranquilizers, this is a relapse and it happened not only because you are an addict, but because your resources against active addiction were not sufficient or in place. There are many reasons for a relapse – in addition to being an addict. The reasons are more correctly defined as precipitating emotional states rather than specific events. Just as trauma is defined as an event that overwhelms the system’s ability to recover from the accident, assault or event, so, too, does relapse occur due to the person’s depleted ability to apply… Continue reading

    The Recovery Unplugged Story – By Richie Supa

      Early in my recovery I went to an NA Convention and I heard a girl share. “All my life I kept the right ones out and let the wrong ones in.” That was a life changing moment for me that lead to the writing of “Amazing” with Steven Tyler of Aerosmith. After an emotional response from people in recovery the seed was planted to eventually start writing songs about Addiction. I started going to treatment centers with just my guitar and playing songs about my journey through addiction calling it Recovery Unplugged. I witnessed the client’s break down and cry relating to the songs. Something very healing started happening, and I began to see the possibilities of music as magical medicine. From there my heart told me I needed to quit looking for Grammy’s and to focus on giving back. I always say you can’t keep what you got… Continue reading

    Recovery, Relapse, Triggers and Yoga – A Journey Into Healing in Three Parts, Part One, Addiction By Kyczy Hawk

        What is the relationship between recovery, relapse and triggers? Addiction. What is “yoga” doing in the title? Yoga brings the keys to self-awareness that help maintain recovery, prevent relapse and release triggers in a healthy way. In order to fully appreciate the benefits of yoga, we have to delve deeper into recovery, relapse, and triggers.To set the stage we first must consider: what is addiction? Addiction is a disease, not a moral failing. It is complex because it includes actual brain changes due to use and abuse as well as emotional, physical, and spiritual changes. Brain change happens whether the addiction is a substance OR a behavior, and not all brain changes are the same. Some drugs and behaviors block neural transmission while others flood the brain with transmission signals and impair the body’s natural ability to produce these transmissions. (Images and explanations can be found at srugabuse.gov.)… Continue reading