So Just How Brave Are You? – By Nicola O’Hanlon

    At the Women’s Wisdom Healing Circle that I facilitate every Sunday on InTheRooms.com (please come join us at Noon EST), we like to get deep with our topics. This past Sunday I chose to open up with a brief personal experience of going from shockingly low self-esteem, barely being able to keep a roof over mine and my children’s heads and being so depressed I could barely wash myself most days, to where I am now…. ….living fully. But what does that even mean? Is it just another guru-esk phrase to bamboozle our brains? Or is there something to this that none of us can afford to ignore? In my experience, the latter is true. I could not and cannot afford to ignore this concept. By doing so, I am, in essence, ignoring everything that I authentically am. I have searched and searched for the answer to happiness and fulfilment.… Continue reading

    Financial Spring Cleaning; Getting Your Finances In Order – By Jackie Stein

    At some stage in recovery, we start to take responsibility for our actions and how it has impacted us in the present. But many of us are afraid to address the financial wreckage. We are quick to make amends to friends and family and to do whatever it takes to make it right with them, but when it comes to situations with our own finances, we often freeze like deer caught in headlights. We may have overdrawn accounts or no accounts, written bad checks, owe money to the government for unpaid or unfiled taxes and maxed out credit cards. Even if our financial situation did not become that dire, we may still be finding it hard to make the money we do have, stretch from one payday to the next. Each person’s situation is different and there is no “one size fits all” method of taking financial lemons and creating… Continue reading

    How Setting Boundaries Keeps Us Closer – By Tsgoyna Tanzman

    How can a boundary that’s essentially a barrier enable you to become closer to someone? It’s not a riddle, but an enigmatic truth principle. Avoidance and distance are our natural defense mechanisms built in to eliminate the pain of those who trod on us either emotionally or physically. But what if there were a better way to communicate? Many of my clients tell me how strained their relationships are, or non-existent, because (among many scenarios) either a spouse, their parent, or a friend is constantly overstepping his boundaries by asking for money, deliberately undermining their parenting rules, being verbally abusive, using their clothes and not returning them, or constantly being late. My first response is some of those “violations” are not actually boundary issues but rather expectations. So how do you sort out a boundary violation from an expectation? For starters, defining the word helps. Boundary:  a line that marks… Continue reading

    The Creation Of A Poet – By Cassandra Smith

    THE CREATION OF A POET My turbulent childhood molded me into a poet.   Black shadows hiding beneath gray clouds of confusion.   Sculpturing, steaming, forming words throwing them on paper   Living now Putting my past behind unless pulling up or helping others   Avoiding pitfalls, pot holes, poisoning emotions  I’m writing, dreaming, living, loving, hoping, pulling good out of chaos   Caressing paper raising me higher above turbulence Someone said, “The best thing about childhood is that it is over.”    I don’t agree.   Living my childhood molded me into a poet   Using words as tools painting positive pictures on naked canvases   Coloring life- soft white clouds mingling among celestial beings Soft, soft, blue… The Creation of a Poet was published in the 2016 edition of The United Federation of Teachers (UFT) annual publication, Reflections in poetry and prose. Continue reading