Jackie Steins Review of “A Sober Moms Guide To Recovery” By Rosemary O’Connor – Self-care & Celebrating Life

      People in the rooms will tell you to “Just don’t take the first drink and go to meetings.” They also say “We are not a glum lot.” Those are the first introductions to self-care and celebrating a life of sobriety.  It often takes a good while for both of those to become habit. Many of us come into recovery having really beaten ourselves to a pulp. Even the “functional” addicts, who still manage to get to their jobs every day, are not eating healthfully, getting deep sleep on a nightly basis or getting to the doctor and dentist regularly. How many of us drank or got high to relieve anxiety and fear? Once in the throes of our drug of choice, whatever had been bothering us was forgotten. Now, without our substance in our systems, we needed to learn ways to relax that didn’t involve alcohol or drugs. The… Continue reading

    The Hardest Thing I Have Had To Do – By Kyczy Hawk

    I quit drinking, That was hard; it was imperative, it was time, I had hit bottom. It was still hard. I quit taking drugs. Again, it was crucial; it was life saving, and it was hard. Working the steps: hard. Living life on life’s terms: hard. Learning to do things clean and sober for the first time: dating, dancing, sex, getting jobs, quitting jobs, applying to school quitting jobs, raising the kids: hard, hard, hard. Further into recovery I was able to discern the source of some of my “defects” and “shortcomings”; rooted as they were in my primary issues of attachment to others and suppression of myself. I wanted so much to be approved of, to be part of, that I repressed some of my native characteristics. I had to investigate my addiction to what I call “otheration”(living through what I thought were the eyes of others), adapting myself… Continue reading

    Dawn Clancy on her new online study course for ACOAs (podcast)

    “I wanted to design a course that was a one stop shop as well as having access to a supportive community. It’s kind of what I wish I had when I came into recovery first.”   Following on from our last podcast with Dawn Clancy of Growing Up Chaotic, we disucss Dawns new first ever online group study course for Adult Children of Alcoholics. You can sign up for notification of enrolement here We talk about how ACOA 101 is different from 12 step ACOA groups, why it’s important for Adult Children coming from any kind of dysfunctional upbring to seek recovery, and what you can expect from the course ACOA 101 which opens for enrolement on January 18th. Continue reading

    My 13 Steps To Recovery – By Esther Nagle

     Slowly my need for alcohol diminished. I was no longer afraid of facing my emotions. When my life hit that famous rock bottom in 2013, I didn’t go to a meeting or to treatment. I didn’t even accept that alcohol was playing a part in the disintegration of my ability to get through life’s troubles. That it was actually causing or contributing to so many of my problems.  I still thought it was the friend that was helping me. No, I ‘didn’t need’ treatment, but what I did accept I needed was a new direction. I had tried lots of things to help me relax, including the Yoga classes I had been attending for years.  I often returned home to a bottle of wine, cigarettes and joints! I was clearly missing the point of Yoga somewhere along the way. Despite this, I had wanted to train to teach yoga for… Continue reading

    Where Are Your Thoughts Taking You?- By Tsgoyna Tanzman

    “I just want to be happy.” That’s a pretty common reply to the question, “What do you want in life?” So what is happiness? What causes it to be present and what causes it to flee? Is the problem with Happiness that we treat it like a noun, believing Happiness is a fixed destination much like a point on a map? What if Happiness were treated like a verb, an action, and what if that action had nothing to do with the actual pursuit of happiness? What if happiness was a by-product of something else entirely? Dr. Matt Killingsworth, a Robert Wood Johnson Health and Society Scholar, who studies the nature and causes of human happiness, and is the creator of track your happiness which uses smartphones to study happiness in real-time during everyday life gave a brilliant TED talk revealing the answer and it turns out it’s not so much what you do, or what your not doing,… Continue reading