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Finding Control – Ryan Michael Sirois

  The screen is blank. A bottle of Pellegrino on the small bronze table ahead. My feet are propped on a blue and white patterned pouf ottoman. I was in the kitchen a few minutes ago before sitting down. Had every intention to write about control, a topic in my AA meeting this morning. But a message slid across the computer monitor with a Facebook alert. It was a photo posted of me and a few friends from sleepaway camp in Maine. Maybe thirteen-years-old. Fourteen. Something like that. Nine of us. June, maybe July. Somewhere in Maine. We were senior campers, which made us feel that much cooler and authoritative over the other kids. The photo was taken one night on a trip in town together. I’ve got a bottle of Pepsi and what looks to be Sour Cream and Onion Pringles in my hands. A mint green, long sleeve… Continue reading

A Sober Mom’s Guide to Recovery By Rosemary O’Connor. Living the Dream – Review By Jackie Stein

“Don’t die with the music still in you.” – Rosemary O’Connor In this chapter of O’Connor’s self-help book, Rosemary examines the concept of living life in recovery. We don’t get clean or sober to live in a bubble or to just stay frozen in time. While in our addiction, we never thought about the future or even the present. We were never bored because we were rarely aware. Now, without the ability to numb ourselves to the world, we are part of the world…and we are scared shitless. What do we do? The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous references feelings of restlessness, irritability and discontentment. We are both bored and scared. We are afraid to do things because we are afraid to fail. Rosemary shows us that this is our chance to live the dream. As she acknowledges, just the fact that we are now sober is a miracle. If… Continue reading

Can You Hear Me Now? – By Tsgoyna Tanzman

“Don’t Listen To Yourself. Talk TO yourself.” These were the words of Jon Dorenbos, a pro-football player, contestant on America’s Got Talent. A juicy piece of wisdom he dealt out while shuffling cards for his special brand of magic that was as much inspirational as it was sleight of hand. These powerful words, likely missed by many, bear repeating Don’t Listen To Yourself ~Talk to Yourself What did he mean? We always talk about how important it is to – Listen to yourself, Listen to your gut. But when those words and messages are talking smack about how wrong you are, how inadequate you are, how useless you are, or how hopeless your situation is, Listening to yourself is anything but what you should do. Jon knows this from personal experience. His father violently killed his mother in their home when Jon was 12 years old. What had once been his self-described… Continue reading

The Cafes Nicola O’Hanlon talks to Jennifer Matesa about her upcoming book – Sex In Recovery: A Meeting Between The Covers (Podcast)

I’m so honored to have had the opportunity to interview Jennifer Matesa for The Cafe’s first ever podcast. We talk about her upcoming book which tackles sexuality and sexual empowerment in recovery. A must read for all recovering people! Pre-order her book here “Sex In Recovery is a work long overdue. In a frank, personal and highly personable way Jennifer Matesa opens a topic usually only whispered about: the essential role of sexual healing in sobriety. Many readers will be grateful to her.” —Gabor Maté M.D., author of In The Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters With Addiction “In this beautifully written work, Jennifer Matesa accomplishes a herculean task. For decades, clinicians have struggled to assist patients to integrate healthy sex lives into robust recovery programs. At the same time, traditional 12 Step programs have promulgated rules that shamed and denied their members’ sexuality. Sex in Recovery resolves this disconnect. Through compelling narrative descriptions,… Continue reading