Drinking: A Love Story — Double Life II By Jackie S

Cheating Wife

  This week Caroline’s book focuses on unmanageability. Maybe better said, the chapter discusses unmanageability and how there is a lack of focus associated with it.  Alcoholics lie. We tell little lies.  We tell spectacular lies.  We lie to others. We lie to ourselves. These are simply statements of fact – there is no judgement involved. We turn lying into an art form. Caroline spent several years trying to manage two intimate relationships without knowing how to extricate herself, keeping the two men at arm’s length from one another. She lied to one while she was with the other one. She lied about how much alcohol she was consuming. She lied to herself that her out-of-control drinking was because she had just lost her father and her mother was ill. She would get it under control when things got better. The ultimate lie we tell ourselves. While my story doesn’t… Continue reading

Make Believe Make Belief: How to Stop Your Brain From Choking – By Tsgoyna Tanzman

Mental Health

I stood on the playground in my green, parent-volunteer apron. Kids were eating, playing, running, sliding, screaming. A fifth grader carrying a lunch tray frantically ran toward me and then screeching to a halt. His eyes bulged. He looked like he was going to throw up. But there was no sound. Oh my God are you choking? His eyes enlarged. He shook his head yes. In an instant, I got behind him, wrapped my arms around his slight frame, hugged my fists and dug into his gut thrusting upward. After three thrusts, the beef jerky that held him in the precipice of life and death, flew out. He gasped a giant gulp of air.  Smiled. Said a very sincere thank you, and dashed off to eat and play. That was it. Done. No big deal. Next … He held no fear of what could’ve happened. He only knew in that moment… Continue reading

Nicola talks to Ricky Byrd, Rock ‘n’ Roll Hall of Fame Inductee and Founder of Clean Getaway Foundation.

Rock ‘n’ roll Hall of Fame inductee, Ricky Byrd, formerly of Joan Jett and The Blackhearts, is on a mission to “carry the torch of change surrounding the stigma of drug and alcohol abuse”. Clean and sober since September 25th 1987, Ricky has plenty of experience, strength and hope to share with recovering people around the world. He is founder of Ricky Byrd’s Clean Getaway Foundation and Musical Director of the Clean Getaway All-Star Band, which he set up to spread the message of hope and awareness to addicted people and their families, using music as a way to help them heal. Ricky’s resume is pretty impressive when it comes to his music career. He performed, recorded and/or toured with Roger Daltrey, Ian Hunter, Southside Johnny, Paul McCartney, Ringo Starr, Joe Walsh, Mavis Staples, Billy Squier, Darlene Love, Ronnie Spector, Brian Wilson, Steve Miller, Graham Nash, Don Felder, Alice Cooper,… Continue reading

What Causes Sexual Addiction? – By Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT-S

One of the first questions I hear from almost every sex addict new to recovery is “How did this happen?” And many of the men and women who ask this question are unable (or unwilling) to move forward with treatment and the process of recovery until they have an answer. So even though knowledge about why they are sexually addicted won’t help them establish or maintain sexual sobriety, I answer the question, letting them know that sexual addiction, like other addictions, is not caused by any one thing. Instead, it is typically the result of numerous influences, both genetic and environmental. Nature (Genetics) Dozens of studies have shown both direct and indirect links between genetics and addiction. For instance, researchers have identified a specific genetic variation that causes the pleasurable effects of addictive substances and behaviors to be magnified. This, of course, directly increases the risk for all types of… Continue reading

The Healing Power of Silence – By Davee Christina

Very recently, I decided I enjoy silence more than radio in the mornings. Every single morning, on my way to work, I turn my radio off and listen to nothing. I pray, and I listen to my thoughts instead. I find this practice extremely amusing, entertaining, fascinating and sometimes horrifying. My mind asks inane questions, appearing out of thin air, even on the way to a meeting. Why can’t you just stop? Why do you need to go to a meeting today? Aren’t you recovered by now? There’s a quote I like – “Silence is the mystery of the world to come”. If you are skeptical about just how beneficial silence can be in your sober life, trust me, I was too. For most of my adult life, I lived about five hours south of my parents and my hometown. It was far enough that I could do whatever I… Continue reading