Drinking: A Love Story – Denial – By Jackie S.

In this chapter of Caroline Knapp’s book she tackles the topic of denial…one with which we are all too familiar. How many times have we heard in a meeting that denial is not a river in Egypt?  What we have also heard in the rooms is that denial stands for “don’t even notice I am lying” and that definition rings true, both in Caroline’s story and in the life of most alcoholics. Denial is the changing rule which allows us to claim that we are “not that bad”. That change happens ever so gradually. I will never drink on a weeknight. Well, I might drink on a weeknight, but I will never drink before 5 pm. I might have a drink at lunch or in the afternoon, but at least I don’t drink in the morning. I might be drinking in the morning but it’s only to settle my nerves.… Continue reading

The Cafes Nicola O’Hanlon, talks to Richie Supa about his new Recovery Inspired Album “Enemy”

I had the privilege of speaking to Rock Legend Richie Supa this week, about his new album “Enemy”, due to be released any day now. Richies music career spans forty years and of the hundreds of songs he’s written, for some of the biggest names in the business, it’s this collection he’s most proud of. Every song on the album is addiction and recovery related. Not only that, but every penny made from the sale of the album goes to the non-profit foundation, “Face The Music”, attached to the “Recovery Unplugged” Rehab facility, where he is Director of Creative Recovery. The funds are allocated to those seeking recovery from addiction who don’t have the financial means to obtain treatment. Supa says, despite his years of success in the music industry, nothing tops his successful twenty seven year recovery from addiction. Nicola:  Hi Richie. It’s great to be able to talk to… Continue reading

Understanding How Sex and Love Addiction Escalate – Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT-S

Addicts of all types typically experience an increasing tolerance to the mood-altering effects of their substance/behavior of choice. In simplest terms, this occurs because the brain adjusts to excessive dopamine levels (created by the repeated use of an addictive substance or behavior) by producing less dopamine and/or reducing the number of dopamine receptors in the brain. In other words, the brain develops a tolerance to addictive substances and behaviors. (I have written about the neurochemistry of addiction in easy to understand terms here.) Because of this, addicts must, over time, use more of or a more intense version of an addictive substance or behavior to get the same high they experienced when they first started. This, in a nutshell, is escalation. Usually this concept is easier to understand if we’re talking about a substance abuse issue, such as heroin addiction. Ask yourself: Does anyone shoot smack right out of the… Continue reading

Winnie The Pooh: An Introduction to Addiction – By Kyczy Hawk

  Please don’t pelt me with “haycorns”. I have revisited the stories of Winnie the Pooh with a new point of view. I have been looking at the early stories from the books “Winnie the Pooh” and “ Now We Are Six” by A.A. Milne with a fresh (recovery oriented) eye. We all struggle with what we like best; well most of us. Winnie the Pooh (or Edward Bear as he was originally known) has been clear from the start. He loves honey. He loves honey in the morning for breakfast and then, when it is not yet time for lunch – it is time for “elevenses”; that little snack before a meal. And honey is the basis of all his meals. I too, abandoned the idea that drinking was for the evening time, even letting go of the phrase “it must be 12 o’clock somewhere” as I really didn’t… Continue reading

Borderline Personality Disorder: A Personal Reflection – By Amelia.

I am on the verge of a Borderline Personality Disorder diagnosis. When I faced disappointment today, I recognised something about myself that came out in this poem. The stereotype Borderline Personality Disorder sufferer is reactive outwardly. I am not. I wanted to share this. I live in words unspoken, the shore you see, gives no indication of the depths. A life beneath the surface, lived silently, in storms and peace. No shallow waters abide. The shore so nice to visit, to walk along, to talk. Yet the deep and wondrous ocean remains unyielding in its presence.   Continue reading