Nicola talks to Sherry Gaba about her new course “Breaking Free From Your Enabling Roles (podcast)

“We need to learn to stick to our boundaries and not bend” Sign up for Sherry Gabas Course HERE Sherry Gaba, LCSW  is a Psychotherapist, Life Coach, and Certified Recovery Coach specializing in individual, couples, family, and group psychotherapy and maintains a private practice in Westlake Village, CA, as well as providing phone and skype appointments. – See more at her website HERE Her new course aims to help those who love an addict or alcoholic, to more deeply understand enabling behaviors, how it harms the addict in the long run and how to stop enabling and build solid boundaries.  Step back and regroup. Start shifting your behavior and making positive changes.  A two-part virtual workshop exclusively for enablers and codependents.  January 25 and February 1, 2017 Participate from anywhere in the world via your computer. Attend live (the most effective way to get real live support) or listen to the replays.… Continue reading

Dawn Clancy on her new online study course for ACOAs (podcast)

“I wanted to design a course that was a one stop shop as well as having access to a supportive community. It’s kind of what I wish I had when I came into recovery first.”   Following on from our last podcast with Dawn Clancy of Growing Up Chaotic, we disucss Dawns new first ever online group study course for Adult Children of Alcoholics. You can sign up for notification of enrolement here We talk about how ACOA 101 is different from 12 step ACOA groups, why it’s important for Adult Children coming from any kind of dysfunctional upbring to seek recovery, and what you can expect from the course ACOA 101 which opens for enrolement on January 18th. Continue reading

Taking A Look At Our Familial Communication – By Jackie Stein, Family Recovery Life Coach

As we start the New Year, I’ve begun thinking of ways we can refine and develop our family communication skills. Communication is the method we use to exchange information. In the family unit, it can be between partners, between parents and children and between children. Communication can be with words but can also be with gestures and/or behavior. When we communicate using gestures or behavior alone, sometimes signals get crossed, because personal perceptions are overlaid. Think of your reaction when you say something and your partner or child rolls his or her eyes. What they are “saying” and what you are “hearing” may not be the same thing. By the same token, written communication is often misconstrued as well. Think about the recent phenomenon of text messaging and tweeting. Use of just words and no intonation allows the message recipient to spin the language based upon how they hear internally… Continue reading

When You’re The Scapegoat In A Toxic Family Of Origin – By Marty Jones

It happened again! The perpetual cycle of me allowing my mother to get close to me, then tearing me apart, me forgiving and learning to trust her again….and round and round we go. To say it’s exhausting and degrading and soul destroying is quite the understatement. And to allow myself to stay in this cycle is even more soul destroying. I’ve worked far too hard and far too deeply on myself to be okay with continuing to be part of my own systematic abuse. So, I’ve decided once and for all to support myself fully, stop denying what is happening and detach from my family. I come from a dysfunctional home (who doesn’t?) where my father drank and womanised all his life. My mother tried to cover it up and put on a show for the rest of the world and was enabled to do so by her own family….because… Continue reading

Podcast with Dawn Clancy from Growing Up Chaotic

I spoke to Dawn Clancy recently, creator of Growing Up Chaotic, a community for friends and families of addicts and survivors of abuse. Dawn and I met originally when we both wrote for AfterPartyMagazine. She shares some of her story with us and gives us some great advice on how to live a functional life, despite growing up chaotic! Continue reading