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Myers-Briggs or Candy Land? – By Tsgoyna Tanzman

“I want winning!” the three-year old seethed as he plucked the dreaded peppermint candy card from the pile.  He was so close to the castle, the finish line, the grand ending where he could declare himself the winner, but instead he boomeranged back to the beginning only to watch others race to the finish. Candy Land is a game of momentary thrills and devastating setbacks. It’s a game of chance– pick a card — see what you get Like life itself, it reveals one’s general resilience and stress tolerance when external circumstances happen. In plain talk:  You get to see who you are when Sh%$ happens.  The game is about trust and tolerance about enjoying the journey and about dealing with the unexpected turn of bad news just when you thought you were at the top of your game. Everyone covets the ice-cream cone card. It’s the winning lotto ticket… Continue reading

What’s Love Got To Do With It? – By Kyczy Hawk

If you remember the famous Tina Turner song, you remember the refrain: “What’s love but a second hand emotion.” That is the way it used to be. I loved you if my needs, thrills, cravings, or wants were being met. I didn’t see YOU, I saw my desires. I was loving the “if…then” experience, not the person. The second side to that was: “I loved me if you loved me.” I was not able to see me as a whole being in and of myself. I was lovable or acceptable if you saw me so; I was good if I was productive and did good things, I was bad if I was idle or when I did badly or poorly. It was all out there and not in here, in the heart of me. The way I didn’t see into the heart of “him” (except when defending or justifying a… Continue reading

Could God Be A Girl? – Podcast with Trista Hendren

  I connected with Trista Hendren in 2015, during the deep self discovery phase of my recovery. Trista is founder and creator of The Girl God series of books, which you ABSOLUTELY, have to check out. In this podcast we talk about the development of the Girl God books, her memoir, Hearts Aren’t Made Of Glass, living with an alcoholic and of course my favourite topic of The Goddess. Trista is originally from Portland in the USA and now lives with her family in Norway. I’ve been lucky enough to have two pieces of work published in two Anthologies in this series. They are truly beautiful books both in word and illustration. You can purchase all of Tristas books on Amazon  and at her website here   Continue reading

Psyche. The totality of the mind; conscious and unconscious – Nicola O’Hanlon

  It’s been a tricky week. A week where I’ve been evaluating the triggers of a deep depression I’ve experienced for a month or two. Perhaps a bit longer. Gladly I seem to be out the other side of it, but boy was it brutal. It rendered me breathless, thoughtless and bottomless. It felt like a roller-coaster that was plummeting really fast, but I didn’t know when it would stop. However, I knew that it would. Stop. I don’t really get to the point of hopelessness anymore. Experience has taught me that it eventually ends. I’ve had bouts of serious depression which lasted years. I stopped questioning when it would end, because I’d forgotten what it was like to be depression free. I’d forgotten that there was a place where I could breathe, think and be grounded. The breathless, thoughtless, bottomless existence was normal then. I’d stopped looking for relief.… Continue reading

Retiring The Monkey

With a pending DWI and a nudge from the judge, I rushed into my 1st 12 step meeting – late. I had intended to get there on time, but my mind had other plans, as usual. Being responsible, considerate of others or punctual wasn’t my forte. Over the years, since my introduction to the program, I tried every way under the sun to stay sober – my way – only to meet with total failure by returning to drinking, isolation and, in the end, shaking my head and asking myself, “What happened?” Today, I’ve not only arrived at a place where I’m sober from alcohol, for 1 year now but I’m sober mentally and emotionally, as well, because I continue to grow along spiritual lines. Putting the plug in the jug, going to meetings, working the steps with a sponsor, reading recovery related material and thanking God throughout the day… Continue reading