Thriving Versus Striving In Recovery: The Power Of Language – By Nicola O’Hanlon

Thriving and striving: two action words that have very different effects on my mind, body and soul. How I speak to myself and the thoughts I have before words leave my mouth, have become fundamental parts of my functionality on this planet and plays a vital part in how my world manifests. More to the point…language plays a vital part in how I manifest my world. Through my training in several healing modalities I have become abundantly aware of how each of us has the ability to heal our own bodies, minds and hearts. While that belief may be rather radical and far reaching for some, it is my experience that it is totally possible and happens daily, even from the most extreme of illness. I trained in Reflexology, Reiki and Therapeutic Massage before I ever even considered that substance abuse was something I engaged in. Yet I knew I… Continue reading

Thriving versus Striving In Recovery – A Yogic View: By Kyczy Hawk

What is the difference between striving and thriving? The general understanding of the words is the difference between making strenuous effort and flourishing. To me it is the difference between getting clean and recovering. Both efforts are important. One got me to the gift of desperation; the other keeps me on my road to restoring my sanity. Striving got me here (to recovery) and thriving keeps me here. I was depleted, guilt ridden, ashamed, and exhausted when I gave up drinking. I was demoralized and spiritually depleted when I first gave up using drugs. My move to being sober was not toward the wonderful life I would be living; it was away from the pain and misery my life had become. I wasn’t working toward anything. I had no idea about what my future would be like, the life I would eventually lead. I had only the goal of stopping. Stopping… Continue reading

The Healing Power of Silence – By Davee Christina

Very recently, I decided I enjoy silence more than radio in the mornings. Every single morning, on my way to work, I turn my radio off and listen to nothing. I pray, and I listen to my thoughts instead. I find this practice extremely amusing, entertaining, fascinating and sometimes horrifying. My mind asks inane questions, appearing out of thin air, even on the way to a meeting. Why can’t you just stop? Why do you need to go to a meeting today? Aren’t you recovered by now? There’s a quote I like – “Silence is the mystery of the world to come”. If you are skeptical about just how beneficial silence can be in your sober life, trust me, I was too. For most of my adult life, I lived about five hours south of my parents and my hometown. It was far enough that I could do whatever I… Continue reading

The Cafes’ Nicola O’Hanlon talks Addiction, Karma, Reincarnation and Tattoos with Chris Grosso – The Indie Spiritualist

  Chris Grosso is a writer, Spiritual Director of Tovio by Advocacy Unlimited, teacher with the Worldwide Insight Organization and public speaker. He is also the author of Indie Spiritualist: A No Bullshit Exploration of Spirituality and Everything Mind: What I’ve Learned About Hard Knocks, Spiritual Awakening and the Mind-Blowing Truth of it All (Sounds True). He writes for many publications including Huffington Post, ORIGIN Magazine and Mantra Yoga + Health Magazine. He created his website, The Indie Spiritualist, six years ago and is jam packed with interviews, music and spiritual teachings – there’s something for every seeker. My first introduction to Chris Grosso was attending a live, video 2.0 meeting he was hosting on His spiritual philosophy and the solutions he found for his years of devastating addiction made me sit upright and listen. His message is all inclusive regarding spirituality. Indeed his message is all inclusive no… Continue reading

How To Light Your Own Candles – Make Believe, Make Belief: By Tsgoyna Tanzman

“I’m celebrating my birthday”, Amaya, my six year old grand niece informed every waiter at every restaurant she visited during the month of November. At home, she’d announced her intention to celebrate “all month long”. In her short life and experience of celebrating only five birthdays, she was on to the magic of self-acknowledgement. Taking care of herself! She didn’t expect anyone or anything to celebrate her without her orchestration and participation. She carried her own candles in her own little purse; “just in case the restaurant doesn’t have them” –  making certain she was responsible for all the details of her happiness. How responsible are you for the details of your own happiness? We often expect other people and things outside ourselves to make us happy, but the truth is, it is always our responsibility. Derek Rydall, leading edge coach and founder of Emergence, examines the word responsibility and makes it two words:… Continue reading