Consider Yourself – A Meditation for Self-Discovery – Nicola O Hanlon

This meditation was part of a program I wrote a few years back about deeply connecting with our deepest selves to find out who we really are and what we require as individuals for our recovery and to live our best lives. It asks us to consider our identity, and if how we identify ourselves is really serving us. I would love for you to listen and let me know what your experience was. I speak at the end a little bit about journaling in a very simplistic manner to enhance the meditation experience. I hope you enjoy.   Continue reading

A Body Apology – By Andrea Wachter, LMFT

Having spent the first half of my life trying to lose weight, I decided some time ago that I refuse to spend the second half of my life trying to lose wrinkles. All day long, our bodies work diligently for us, yet most people walk around lost in thought, ignoring, criticizing and often times even despising their bodies. I used to be an extreme body hater. After decades of working on cultivating self-kindness and self-care, I am now extremely devoted to loving and appreciating the body I live in. I also have the good fortune of being able to teach others how to do the same. It occurred to me recently that while my body must be infinitely more content with the treatment it receives from me now (both externally and internally), I felt like I owed it an apology. After all, if I had abused someone else for decades… Continue reading

Changing Our Environment to Enhance Recovery – Nicola O’Hanlon

All living beings have the need and the ability to be sensitive to their surroundings to help them to survive and thrive. Humans, like all other beings, including plants, have an innate awareness of environment and seek out environments with certain qualities. For example, certain plants can only grow and thrive in certain environments. Some need lots of sunshine, some need shade. The soil they root into also has a huge impact; some need alkaline soil conditions, some need acidic and some need more water than others. However, once a plant is in the ideal environment it grows strong and thrives. Humans are no different. We have a strong need for safety and security and look for those attributes in our environment whether we are conscious of it or not. We also look for physical comfort and so things like the right temperature is important and just like plants we need the right… Continue reading

Facing Your Feelings – Nicola O’Hanlon

Many of us have been brought up to perceive certain emotions as a weakness. We come to believe that certain emotions are defective or not allowed. In turn, we suppress our emotions, which are indicators of what our true feelings are on any given subject, and instead take on the opinions and beliefs of others in an attempt to fit in or be accepted. In my own life it has taken profound courage to look at my deepest and most challenging feelings, and then attach these feelings to some of the most disturbing of circumstances in my life, past and present. Processing our feelings is terrifying sometimes. If we find we are experiencing what is societally a negative emotion, we can often be shamed and told there is something wrong with us. How many times, for example, do we hear that anger is not lady like. You must accept the… Continue reading

Trying Not to Try: The Wild Mind Workings of a Recovering Perfectionist By Andrea Wachter, LMF

If you are someone who has struggled with eating and body image, there’s a good chance you have also struggled with perfectionism. If this is the case for you, you’re likely no stranger to the concept of trying. Back in the days of my eating disorder, my trying looked something like this: Trying to lose weight Trying a new diet Trying to recover from a binge Trying to work out Trying to work out more (Pull up a chair, this could take a while!) Trying to improve my looks Trying to get a boyfriend Trying to look good Trying to fit in Trying to do well in school Trying to be cool Trying to be perfect   Next up were my early years in recovery: Trying to listen to my body Trying to eat intuitively Trying to get it right Trying to let go of being perfect Trying to be… Continue reading