How A Resource Anchor Keeps You Afloat – By Tsgoyna Tanzman

I popped open the lid of the shower gel and breathed in the scent. Paris, 2004, The George V hotel. It was the scent of money and luxury, definitely pre-2008. It was a shower gel I’d taken as a souvenir from the hotel and now 12 years later, I was instantly teleported to smelling, seeing, hearing, and feeling what I experienced in that sweet moment in time.

Scent is our most primal sensory organ instantaneously linking and transporting us to another dimension. Yet  all  of our senses contribute to an ongoing storage system of memories deeply embedded in our neurology.

Simply put, these “anchors” are a connection between a stimulus and emotional response. Like it or not we are conditioned with these stimulus response opportunities all the time, whether it’s the scent of chocolate chip cookies anchoring us to a sweet time in our childhood, or a song firing off a memory of a hot hookup or a devastating breakup, to a visual symbol of a golden arch triggering feelings of either crappy food or those much desired nuggets, we are the distant cousins of Pavlov’s dogs.

The interesting question is if these triggers can unconsciously and instantly transport us to feel nostalgia, joy, sadness, anger or fear, how could we train our brains to consciously evoke the states of confidence, motivation, learning and well being?

In other words, how can we condition our brains to instantly get into resourceful states that serve us?

“Anchoring” is a process in Neurolinguistic Programming(NLP)  similar to conditioning but extends beyond external stimuli causing us to have a reaction, to enabling us to internally create states based on accessing our own memories and experiences.

The metaphor of an “anchor” is purposeful in NLP terminology. Anchoring, as a verb, is defined as something which holds a vessel secure and firmly in position, providing it with a firm basis or foundation.

Resource anchors are a self-help tool for creating a desirable state and with some practice you can train your brain to access these states.

How to do NLP Anchors:

Ready to give it a try?  It’s simple to do so… enjoy!

(1) Pick a memory. To do NLP anchors, first of all you have to pick a memory with strong feelings attached to it. If you want to anchor “confidence”, then choose a time when you were feeling truly confident. If you want to anchor “motivation”, then pick a memory of when you were super motivated. (Note – if you believe you’ve never felt this way before, it’s possible to anchor by just imagining yourself as being in a certain resourceful state, but it’s more powerful to actually relive an experience you’ve had personally).

(2) Associate into the memory. This means relive the memory by seeing it through your own eyes (this makes the feelings more intense). For best results, play with the submodalities too – so make the picture bigger, brighter, more vivid – and ramp up the feelings too. The clearer the image, and the more intense the feelings, the better your anchor will be.

(3) Anchor the feeling. As mentioned above, when you start feeling the positive feelings, create a trigger – This will be a place you could ‘fire” on another occasion to trigger your response. It is useful to pick a spot that’s distinct and purposeful. I always recommend pressing your thumb to your ring finger.


You want to press your thumb to your ring finger up until the PEAK of your experience

 Then release 

Think of a Bell curve and when the intensity of the image is at the top of the bell release your hold.

(4) Release at the peak. When the emotion is at its peak, release your trigger. This may take a bit of practice, but you’ll get it within a couple of tries.

(5) Test! Break state, which means that you should do something else unrelated for 30 seconds or so (just to take your mind off this). After that, test your anchor by firing off your trigger. If it has worked, you’ll feel the same strong feelings as you did in the memory!

(6) Repeat. For best results, repeat 3-4 times. You can do this with the same memory, or with different memories for the same emotional state (recommended). If you stack 3-4 different memories of “confidence”, for example, the next time you need confidence you can fire off your anchor and you’ll feel a brilliant rush of confidence surging through your veins!

Try this simple mind hack,  first with experiences of feeling good. As you trigger  feeling good throughout the day, for no reason at all,  you train your brain into better mental chemistry. Feeling good is a choice we can make for the simple reason it feels good. 

Make Believe~Make Belief Affirmation:  I choose the images that shape my mind into feeling good.


About Tsgoyna Tanzman

For more than 20 years, Tsgoyna has been coaching a broad range of people, including those who’ve suffered traumatic brain injuries and catastrophic life events as well as healthy, smart, successful people who’ve been derailed or feel stuck. She likes to say, “You don’t have to have a brain injury to damage your brain, we do that with our limiting thoughts and negative beliefs.” Tsgoyna is an expert at helping women learn to coach themselves, so they can redefine and recreate their lives from an integrated, empowered and joyful state. She teaches women the tools and strategies to separate circumstances from thoughts & feelings, while gaining insight and choice into the actions they take. She supports women in releasing emotional baggage and limiting beliefs, setting goals and taking action to achieve them. Tsgoyna knows about addiction, codependence, alcoholism and the daily process of working a program as her husband is celebrating 25 years of sobriety since the intervention she arranged. Tsgoyna is a Speech/Language Pathologist, MA/CCC, Certified Life Coach, Mental Emotional Release® Therapist, Master Practitioner of Neurolinguistic Programming and a Certified Hypnotherapist. Additionally, she achieved a Level II certification in E.F.T (Emotional Freedom Technique). She has also been guest writer with 9 published pieces at the online magazine MORE.COM as well as having 15 stories published in Chicken Soup for the Soul ( in 15 different anthologies).
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  1. Happy to provide a great tool. Keep practicing!

  2. Thank you for sharing that tool with me to help me access rose feelings when I want and need them I will keep practicing

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