Rocketed Into A Fourth Dimension -Kyczy Hawk

Clean and sober: now what? 90 meetings in 90 days, read the book, get a sponsor, write out your steps longhand, read the Morning Reflections, change everything and did I mention;” Go to meetings”?  I thought that getting sober was going to be a long slog from one recovery oriented duty to another. Sure, the stories at the meetings were often funny and entertaining. Some shares were worthy of stand up comic bookings. Others were so tender and painful it seemed as if every heart in the room would break. Tears could render the meeting absolutely silent: hearing a pin drop would be a cannon boom. The reading! It seemed it would never end. The first 164 pages being the foundation of the program (I started in AA and it is my primary fellowship), then there are the stories at the back, which are taken often as “gospel”. Those, being… Continue reading

Can I stay sober and sane with long term health issues? – By Greg R

I hear a lot about staying sane in ‘fellowship’ situations. Staying sane, while staying sober is quite difficult. Add long term ill health issues on top of that and the difficulty rating rises quite significantly. Hardly any of us ‘get away with it’ in our addiction. We come round, come to and then come to find that bits of our physiology and psychology have suffered damage from our disease. With me, it’s bone density and damage, which causes Chronic Pain, having to walk with assistance, and a stonking case of ‘M.E.’, (more commonly known as Chronic Fatigue Syndrome) and a few other things besides. For all of these conditions, I’ve had to seek help from qualified and experienced specialists in their respective fields. Within the fellowship I’ve had experience where sponsors suggested that their protégé cease taking their medications. I did this, once, and that is the operative word, once.… Continue reading

Have You Really Worked Step 1? – Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT-S

  In today’s world, recovery from addiction typically starts in rehab, followed by addiction focused outpatient therapy, 12 step meetings, and step work. Most of the time, as recovering addicts grow comfortable with their sobriety, they rely less on professional help and more on 12 step support groups and continual working of the steps. This, of course, begins with step 1. We admitted we were powerless over our addiction—that our lives had become unmanageable. On the surface, step 1 seems relatively straightforward. And for many addicts it is. For these lucky individuals, simply walking into a treatment center, a therapist’s office, or a 12 step meeting and asking for help is a full and complete admission of powerlessness and unmanageability. However, other recovering addicts must continually battle with denial about their disease. These addicts must consciously and purposefully work step 1 if they hope to establish and maintain lasting sobriety.… Continue reading

One For The Road – by Marc J Dunn

  The sound of the tires exploding, the bottom of the car bouncing along the shoulder of the road, the screeching sound that comes with a vehicle out of control; none of that was enough to bring me out of my blackout. My car had veered off the Interstate into the grass that separated it from the walled community on the other side. I was slumped over the wheel. My knowledge of these events are not the result of my recall, but what I was later told by the investigating officer who responded to someone’s call to 911. What I remember is very short… at about 2 o’clock in the afternoon I had stopped at a liquor store to get a mini-bottle of Crown, just enough to take the edge off.  A drink for the road, so to speak, “One for the road” was not an expression that I understood.… Continue reading

Book Review: “Sex Addiction 101: The Workbook” – By Scott Brassart

Earlier this year, Rob Weiss’s excellent book about sexual addiction, Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction was published. Without doubt, it was the most accurate, up-to-date, understandable, and informative book ever written about sex addiction, easily supplanting all others as the “go to” read for recovering sex and love addicts. The book’s lone shortcoming is that it does not provide readers with guided exercises to assist them in their recovery. Happily, Weiss has just published an accompanying volume to address this issue, Sex Addiction 101, The Workbook: 24 Proven Exercises to Guide Sex Addiction Recovery. This new workbook definitely lives up to its billing. As a recovering sex addict with almost 15 years of sobriety, I can tell you that I really wish this book was available when I started on my path to recovery. Sure, I did a few of these… Continue reading