Addressing the Real Myths about Sexual Addiction – Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT-S

In the last several of years, a small sub-faction of therapists, primarily those who label themselves “sexologists,” have publicly and vociferously argued that sex addiction is not a real disorder. Most recently this occurred with a wildly misinformed article published in The Therapist. (If you’re curious, you can find that article here.) Interestingly, these folks freely admit that “some people do experience sexual behavior that can become problematic, even dysfunctional or unmanageable.” That, of course, leaves many people, myself included, wondering why, exactly, these sex addiction deniers are so busy shouting about “the myth” of sex addiction. In The Therapist and elsewhere, these therapists have routinely ignored both clinical realities and a significant amount of sex addiction focused scientific research, instead offering a wide array of mostly spurious rhetoric to support their viewpoint. Below I will note the various arguments I’ve read and/or heard, debunking each of these myths with… Continue reading

Is Compulsive Porn Use Ruining Your Sex Life? – ByRobert Weiss LCSW, CSAT-S

  Paul is a 27-year-old cable TV installer with a long-term girlfriend living in a nearby city. They’ve been dating for two years, and he finds her extremely attractive. However, he struggles to perform with her in bed. He says this has been an ongoing issue, almost from the beginning of their relationship. A year ago, he got a prescription for Viagra, but even that has not helped. Lately, things have gotten so bad that he’s started inventing excuses to not have sex. Confused, anxious, and depressed, Paul recently entered therapy, stating, “I don’t understand what the problem is. My girlfriend is totally hot and I really love her, but I can’t get an erection with her even if I take Viagra. I don’t have any trouble getting hard with porn, but when I’ve got the real thing right there in front of me, I can’t manage it.” Upon further… Continue reading