Advantages of Being Highly Sensitive – By Andrea Wachter, LMFT

Chances are, if you are a highly sensitive person, you are no stranger to being told that you are “too sensitive.” For many people, this comment feels like an insult, but in fact, there are some considerable advantages that come along with being a highly sensitive person. When I was a kid, I used to think that everyone was equally as sensitive as I was. I figured everyone took everything to heart like I did– they just didn’t admit it. I was sure that my siblings cowered inside like I did when our parents scolded us. I was certain that all my friends were as crushed as I was when a budding romance did not bloom into a full-blown relationship. I thought everyone wanted to die if they made a mistake or disappointed someone. It took many years for me to realize that we are not all the same breed. Some people are not… Continue reading

Life Needs Tidying – By Tsgoyna Tanzman

  Two crumpled receipts:  1 from Costco,1 from Ralph’s, 1 double-sided shopping list, 1 yellow post it note scribbled in blue ink: “Thanks for the loan PT,”  3 pellets of hard dog food & a tablespoonful of sand. This is what I found at the bottom my laundry basket, after I hoisted a heaping double armload of crumpled whites. Life needs tidying. Mine is a mostly tidy house as long as you don’t open a cabinet or drawer. Until someone comes over, I think my house is tidier than it is. Then I notice every little out-of-place detail: An unfolded towel, a cup left on the counter, a paperclip by the sink, a hair scrunchie abandoned on the couch. Yes, every room in my house could use some straightening. Life needs tidying, but no matter how clean the rooms are, I have a nagging sense something else needs tidying. At… Continue reading

Nurturing Yourself to Combat Anxiety (and a little bit about my Women’s Holistic Coaching Experience coming to InTheRooms.com – By Nicola O’Hanlon

  With the ever increasing demands on us to function in our high pressure world, many of us find we live in a constant state of high alert and anxiety. I myself, spent over a decade in sustained high stress situations (probably longer than that if the truth be told) and having to deal with the reality of my shattered life in recovery, without anything to numb the pain was tough. I was constantly physically ill and having type 1 diabetes for 30 years didn’t help. If I had used the knowledge I possessed from my training as a Reflexologist and Therapeutic Masseuse some 15 years earlier, I would have found the recovery process easier. However, having presence of mind to do anything in a logical and calm manner was impossible. I wasn’t sleeping. I was in a constant state of anxiety. There was conflict within family relationships and caring… Continue reading

Ordinary World – By Gabe Rheaume

  I have a chart of protocol that says, “Let me be” at the manic sweet spot. When the world is rushing by and my mind is aglow. When I’m beautiful, and funny, and everyone loves me. Before I forget my illness brings unearthly joy before I become paranoid and afraid before the alcohol and drugs before I become the madness of night. Don’t take my happiness away I just found it. Don’t trade my paradise for a hospital bed, I wouldn’t do that to you. Don’t cage me in a prescription bottle. Don’t intervene. I will come back. I would come back if I knew I left. Maybe I wouldn’t.   This is how it is This is how I am… Isn’t it?   I’m floating through the vibrant rich landscape of the universe experiencing color for the first time. Don’t reel me back to the grey world of… Continue reading

You Get To Re-write Your Story – By Jeanne Foot

  Rewrite your story, you get to choose again I was raised in a middle-class loving family, where my parents were doing the best that they could do in terms of providing for my needs. Financially, I had all the comforts one would wish for but emotionally I fell victim to what was taught to my parents by their parents, who again were doing the best taught by their parents, which I refer to as intergenerational trauma. Dr. Gabor Mate has spoken about the effects of trauma on a young child regarding normal development. Dr. Mate references the fact that if you were trying to create a perfect profile for someone who would fall prone to addiction and mental illness, you would raise them with trauma, neglect and fear, and that would create the exact prescription for an “addict.” Through no fault of my own, I was raised in an… Continue reading