A Sober Mom’s Guide to Recovery By Rosemary O’Connor. Living the Dream – Review By Jackie Stein

“Don’t die with the music still in you.” – Rosemary O’Connor In this chapter of O’Connor’s self-help book, Rosemary examines the concept of living life in recovery. We don’t get clean or sober to live in a bubble or to just stay frozen in time. While in our addiction, we never thought about the future or even the present. We were never bored because we were rarely aware. Now, without the ability to numb ourselves to the world, we are part of the world…and we are scared shitless. What do we do? The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous references feelings of restlessness, irritability and discontentment. We are both bored and scared. We are afraid to do things because we are afraid to fail. Rosemary shows us that this is our chance to live the dream. As she acknowledges, just the fact that we are now sober is a miracle. If… Continue reading

Make Believe, Make Belief: What’s Your Story? – By Tsgoyna Tanzman

“I want someone to tell me the truth,” my patient said as he sat at his kitchen table. He’d had a stroke in the right hemisphere of his brain. Right brain strokes cause disorientation in place and time. “What’s the truth you want,” I asked? “Everyone tells me I am home, and I must admit this place is decorated very similarly, but I know I am not home.” His belief, his story, all the facts and evidence anyone gave him including himself, could not convince him he was home.  This is a brain injury. For the last the 25 years I’ve worked with people diagnosed with brain injuries. But, You don’t have to have an injury to damage your brain. We do this all the time with our negative thinking and limiting beliefs. And I’m just as guilty as the next person. How often can our healthy brains not see the truth? I worked with… Continue reading

How To Light Your Own Candles – Make Believe, Make Belief: By Tsgoyna Tanzman

“I’m celebrating my birthday”, Amaya, my six year old grand niece informed every waiter at every restaurant she visited during the month of November. At home, she’d announced her intention to celebrate “all month long”. In her short life and experience of celebrating only five birthdays, she was on to the magic of self-acknowledgement. Taking care of herself! She didn’t expect anyone or anything to celebrate her without her orchestration and participation. She carried her own candles in her own little purse; “just in case the restaurant doesn’t have them” –  making certain she was responsible for all the details of her happiness. How responsible are you for the details of your own happiness? We often expect other people and things outside ourselves to make us happy, but the truth is, it is always our responsibility. Derek Rydall, leading edge coach and founder of Emergence, examines the word responsibility and makes it two words:… Continue reading