What Triggers Sexually Addictive Behaviors? – Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT-S

  Sexually addictive behaviors are typically triggered by one of two things: a strong desire to escape an uncomfortable feeling, or a strong reminder of the pleasure experienced through sexual fantasy and activity. Either type of trigger will induce, in sex addicts, the craving to act out sexually. It is important to note that addiction cravings are not the same as a non-addicted person craving a bag of potato chips or a scoop of ice cream after a hard day at work. Addiction cravings are more like the need for air after holding your breath for a minute or more. Once addiction cravings are triggered, they are beyond conscious control. They escape reason and logic. They are so powerful that they overwhelm and take control of the addict’s thought process. This is why sex addicts (and other addicts) find it so difficult to establish and maintain sobriety, despite the promises… Continue reading

Recovery, Relapse, Triggers and Yoga; A Journey Into Healing Part Two – Kyczy Hawk

      Relapse and Triggers What is Relapse? Lapse describes a short “fall off the wagon,” and relapse describes a longer and perhaps more permanent “fall off the wagon.”. Hendershot et al. describe it this way: “a setback during the behavior changing process” (2011 www.biomedcentral.com/content/pdf/1747-597X-6-17/pdf) . If you re-engage with sugar or sex, codependent behavior or cocaine, tobacco or tranquilizers, this is a relapse and it happened not only because you are an addict, but because your resources against active addiction were not sufficient or in place. There are many reasons for a relapse – in addition to being an addict. The reasons are more correctly defined as precipitating emotional states rather than specific events. Just as trauma is defined as an event that overwhelms the system’s ability to recover from the accident, assault or event, so, too, does relapse occur due to the person’s depleted ability to apply… Continue reading

Drinking:  A Love Story – Healing/Conclusion By Jackie S.

  It is hard to come to the end of the book I am sharing with you.  I have grown attached to it, reading it each week with my friend and then giving you a taste of the story and of my own.  There are many themes that arose in this last chapter and I will try to touch on most of them.  As you read along, try to notice how often you begin to nod your head in recognition. The first theme is how different things look through sober eyes.  It could be something as simple as watching television at night and not only enjoying the show but remembering what was watched the next morning.  Going to sleep instead of passing out.  Waking up instead of coming to. It could be going out to dinner with a friend who is not sober and watching his or her behavior as… Continue reading