Are You Struggling with Step Four? – By Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT-S  

  Step Four: Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. For many recovering addicts, step four is a huge sticking point in their recovery. The idea of taking a long, hard look at themselves and their behavior just isn’t appealing – especially if they’re still engaging in the type of denial that externalizes the blame for their addiction. You know the drill… I drink because my family treated me badly. I get high because there is too much pressure on me at work. I use porn for hours on end because my partner is not as interested in sex as I am. When addicts are still justifying their behavior in this way, the mere thought of taking an action that forces them to see their own role in their addiction and its consequences often seems unnecessary, not to mention frightening, daunting, shaming, depressing, etc. And who needs that,… Continue reading